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Ready To Transform Your Co-Parenting?
MOVE FROM HIGH-CONFLICT TO COLLABORATIVE CO-PARENTING
Discover your influencing power and take the lead to secretly influence your co-parent so that you can finally enjoy collaborative co-parenting!
6 Wheels Co-parenting is a fresh, fun, and tactical approach to co-parenting conflict that empowers you to transform your co-parenting relationship over 10 weeks with a step-by-step toolkit of subtle and strategic evidence-based protocols.
And best of all - it requires absolutely no input from your co-parent! In fact, it's encouraged to not even tell them you're doing this program!
6 Wheels is about "leading" and "doing", rather than "waiting" and "hoping".
You Deserve To Enjoy Easy, Collaborative Co-Parenting
YOU KNOW THAT COLLABORATIVE CO-PARENTING IS BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR KIDS...
BUT RIGHT NOW IT FEELS STRESSFUL AND OVERWHELMING...
Maybe you're feeling it's hopeless; that your co-parent will never change...
Maybe you're exhausted by the constant arguing over every little thing...
Maybe you're anxious and stressed in most interactions with your co-parent...
Maybe you're disillusioned by knowing your kids are stuck in the middle of conflict...
Maybe you feel like you're trying your best yet nothing seems to be working....
MAYBE YOU'RE WONDERING IF COLLABORATIVE CO-PARENTING IS EVEN POSSIBLE FOR YOU...
Only when we're brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.
- Brene Brown
You're In The Right Place
I'VE COACHED MANY PARENTS WHO FELT STRESSED, ANXIOUS AND OVERWHELMED...
Like you, they experienced high-conflict co-parenting that wore them down, like being constantly on a battlefield, stuck in a cycle of conflict that seemed never-ending.
It's my mission to empower parents like you with proven, evidence-based protocols over 10 weeks so that you can free yourself from high-conflict co-parenting and strategically lead the transformation of your co-parenting relationship.
6 Wheels Co-parenting is a journey of leadership and self-discovery, finding your power of influence, and taking action to build trust and value into your co-parenting relationship.
This is a programme of tactical influence, where you are an experimental (and undercover!) social scientist with the goal of leading positive change in your co-parenting relationship. So, shhh - don't tell your co-parent you're here!
"I am not afraid of storms for I am learning how to sail my ship."
~ LOUISA MAY ALCOTT ~
How Would It Feel To...
Have a supportive, respectful and collaborative co-parenting relationship?
Notice how calm and stress-free it is to communicate with your co-parent?
Avoid the uncertainty of Family Court where important decisions are out of your control?
Save money by both avoiding Court and also sharing resources more effectively with your co-parent?
Have a clear set of easy evidence-based actions that are proven to build healthy relationships?
Transform your co-parenting relationship - and feel proud for owning this achievement?
Role-model to your children that it's possible to build trust and value into difficult relationships?
All Of This Is 100% Possible For You!
MY CLIENTS ARE LIVING PROOF, AND YOU CAN BE TOO!
The Old Way To Manage High-Conflict Co-Parenting
THE OLD MODEL KEEPS YOU STUCK.
It's so easy to get caught up in co-parenting power struggles! When someone pushes you, there's such an instinct to push back. When it feels like someone's not being co-operative, there's such a strong instinct to prove that we're right. I know - I've been there!
The number one mistake that prevents collaborative co-parenting is confrontation - all of those tiny head-on moments where you tell your co-parent:
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What they're doing wrong
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How they're not measuring up
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What you want them to do
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What the problem is, and what your solutions are
It's like an old-fashioned teacher who tells you all the things you're doing wrong and threatens you with detention and somehow expects you to be motivated to learn...
Or like waving a stick at a wild animal and somehow expecting it to want to do what you want...
Too many co-parents become so anxious and worn down by chronic conflict that they believe nothing can ever really change, and that the best they can do is try to interact with their co-parent as little as possible.
The old model is about avoidance, self-protection, reaction, criticism, being 'right', and fixed positions as opponents. In the old model nothing really changes.
BUT 6 WHEELS CO-PARENTING COMBINES NEUROSCIENCE AND THE PSYCHOLOGY OF INFLUENCE, EMPOWERING YOU TO BE THE LEADER AND POSITIVELY TRANSFORM YOUR CO-PARENTING.
Influence is strength without force… both quiet and powerful”
JOCELYN DAVIS
6 Wheels Co-Parenting is a new model for managing relationship conflict, focused on taming your co-parent, and your co-parenting.
'Taming' your co-parent requires you to feel empowered enough to lower your defenses and weapons, and instead use behaviours that are proven to convert adversaries to allies.
6 Wheels Co-Parenting is a systematic protocol to free yourself from the stress of conflict and tame your co-parenting relationship so that you and your children can enjoy collaborative co-parenting.
There Is A Better Way; A More Strategic Way
IN JUST 10 WEEKS, YOU CAN:
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BECOME EMPOWERED
A leader sets the goal and inspires others to follow.
6 Wheels coaches you to be the leader to transform your co-parenting from high-conflict to collaborative.
Over 10 weeks you will use your power of influence to subtly engage and guide your co-parent towards your goal of collaborative co-parenting.
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BUILD TRUST
Trust is essential in any collaborative relationship.
By applying small, easy actions that encourage your co-parent to experience choice, connection, and competence, you will build trust into your co-parenting relationship.
Importantly, your co-parent will start to effortlessly copy your pro-social actions.
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CREATE VALUE
Finding and growing value in your co-parenting relationship is essential.
6 Wheels is a step-by-step toolkit for creating a valued relationship characterized by goodwill, appreciation, generosity, respect, fairness, and flexibility.
It's a "win" for you and your children!
AND I'M GOING TO SHOW YOU HOW!
When you both feel empowerment, trust, and value, you have collaborative co-parenting.
Hi, I'm Rose Ewing
LEADING CO-PARENTING COACH
I've been co-parenting with two young boys since 2015, and the early years were extremely high conflict and I felt stressed all the time. Just the 'ping' of a text or email from my co-parent would bring on a wave of stress! It was like living life permanently on the battlefield with neither of us willing, or feeling safe enough, to lay down our weapons or defenses.
It took more than two years for me to pick myself up, dust myself off, and realise that my co-parenting relationship would not change unless I led the change.
Being curious and experimental by nature, I began wondering how I could change my co-parenting situation by using what I've learned from my studies and career in communication, educational psychology, neuroscience, philosophy, alternative dispute resolution, and mediation.
6 Wheels Co-Parenting is the culmination of years of personal experimentation, research, and learnings from running co-parenting group workshops since 2022.
My clients are curious and capable parents who refuse to stay stuck in high-conflict co-parenting and are seeking a solution that empowers them to drive behaviour change. They are highly motivated to achieve collaborative co-parenting, not only for their own well-being, but because they know it's best for their children.
AND NOW IT'S YOUR TURN!
Bach. International Communication, GradDip Educational Psychology, Accredited Mediator with Resolution Institute NZ, Member of New Zealand Association of Positive Psychology, Certified Hypnotherapist
Introducing 6 Wheels Co-Parenting
6 WHEELS CO-PARENTING IS A 10 WEEK PROGRAMME WITH A STEP-BY STEP PERSONALISED ACTION PLAN, WEEKLY PERSONAL SUPPORT, AND TRAINING VIDEOS.
When you join the 6 Wheels Co-parenting programme, you'll receive 1:1 coaching support for your unique co-parenting situation.
Based on the neuroscience of behaviour change and habit formation, 6 Wheels Co-parenting includes a protocol of subtle, tactical, evidence-based actions personalised to transform your co-parenting relationship.
As the weeks unfold and you start noticing positive change, you'll build confidence in your ability as a transformational leader who can influence behaviour change (in potentially the trickiest person in your life!).
Most importantly, you'll have fun! Behavioural science research shows that when we are more playful, we are more open, curious, and creative. In challenging situations, this is the leadership mindset you need!
6 Wheels Co-parenting is a 10 week journey of self-discovery as you choose to be the hero of your own story, brave and curious, and ready to steer your co-parenting relationship in a positive direction.
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6 Wheels Co-Parenting Outline
THE 3 STEPS YOU'LL TAKE IN 6 WHEELS CO-PARENTING
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DEVELOPING
YOUR CO-PARENT
IDENTITY
6 Wheels is about focusing on the things you can control or influence, which starts with you!
Research shows that the most effective way to change outcomes is to reverse engineer the process and start with identity.
So what kind of co-parent do you want to be?
We emphasise the importance of rising above any difficult behaviour from your co-parent and developing the skills to become the co-parenting leader your co-parent will want to follow.
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UNDERSTANDING
BEHAVIOUR
CHANGE
Key to transforming your co-parenting is understanding what needs to happen in the brain in order for behaviour to change.
6 Wheels coaches you through basic concepts from the latest research on neuroplasticity and behavioural psychology so that you understand the most effective approach to building new positive habits in your co-parenting.
Shifting from conflict to collaboration is a gentle (almost invisible!) process of strategic influence that will create lasting change in your co-parenting.
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APPLYING
EVIDENCE-BASED ACTIONS
What makes 6 Wheels so effective is that it's about "doing" - following a protocol of small, simple, strategic actions to tame your co-parenting.
6 Wheels is a step-by-step protocol for creating empowerment, value and trust; the essential ingredients of collaborative co-parenting.
Over 10 weeks you will take actions to set in motion a transformed co-parenting relationship characterized by goodwill, appreciation, generosity, respect, fairness, and flexibility.
In just 10 weeks, you'll be on your way to reclaiming your life free from the stress of high-conflict co-parenting
AND I'LL BE WITH YOU EVERY STEP OF THE WAY
6 Wheels Co-Parenting Gives You Everything You Need To Transform Your Co-Parenting
EVEN IF YOUR CO-PARENT IS COMPLETELY UNCOOPERATIVE...
6 Wheels Co-parenting gives you the specific actions and strategies to empower you to secretly influence your co-parent into pro-social behaviour - even the 'wildest' co-parent will succumb! I have the toolkit and action plan - you just need to bring patience, curiosity, and tenacity.
EVEN IF YOU'VE BEEN IN CONFLICT FOR YEARS...
Then don't waste any more time! You will be co-parents long after your children grow up. Wouldn't it be great to know you can both go to your children's weddings without any stress? 6 Wheels Co-parenting is based on neuroplasticity protocols that prove change at brain level is possible at any age.
EVEN IF YOU ONLY COMMUNICATE BY TEXT OR EMAIL...
A starting point is all you need. It's all about making a start, taking actions to get the wheels of collaborative co-parenting turning. 6 Wheels Co-parenting acknowledges the uniqueness of each co-parenting situation and the 12 week action plan will be personalised just for you.
EVEN IF YOU'RE EMOTIONALLY EXHAUSTED...
The simple fact that you're reading this tells me that despite it all, you have the capacity to find the bravery and resilience within you to step forward and lead the change that has to happen in your co-parenting relationship. And I'll be giving you a 12 week action plan and supporting you all the way!
NO MATTER WHERE YOU'RE AT NOW, BY THE END OF 6 WHEELS CO-PARENTING YOU WILL FEEL EMPOWERED, AND FEEL A NEW TRUST AND VALUE IN YOUR CO-PARENTING
GOT QUESTIONS? START HERE
Frequently Asked Questions
I'm sure you have questions! In fact, 6 Wheels Co-Parenting is designed for people who are curious, so I'd be disappointed if you didn't! Below are some general FAQs. Have a read, and if you're still curious, I'd love to connect by phone or Zoom for a free, no-obligation discovery call.
Can I do the 6 Wheels programme with my co-parent?
No - 6 Wheels is definitely for one parent only.
6 Wheels Co-parenting is all about experimentally applying tactics of influence to improve your co-parenting relationship. If your co-parent knows what you're doing and why, these tactics simply won't work.
I'm still not sure if 6 Wheels is right for me...
Book a free 30 min discovery call with me. This is an easy way to simply have a chat, ask questions, and figure out if 6 Wheels is a good fit for you.
Why is 6 Wheels Co-Parenting run over 10 weeks?
Change happens over time when new behaviours are used consistently and repetitively. 10 weeks gives us the time to create a shift towards automatic, habitual, collaborative behaviour.
My children are teenagers. Is 6 Wheels an appropriate course?
Absolutely - the age of your children is irrelevant. 6 Wheels is not about the nuts and bolts of parenting children together. It's about influencing the relationship you have with your co-parent. If you can improve the relationship, everything else improves.
I've read so many self-help books about co-parenting but can't seem to change anything. How is 6 Wheels different?
6 Wheels is all about the "doing"! 10 weeks of choosing to take the lead as a 'social scientist' and applying proven strategies of influence, then being supported to evaluate and improve your co-parenting leadership.
Why is it called '6 Wheels'?
Great question! Influence depends on trust, and trust is earned through actions. Research shows 6 key categories of actions that build trust - Goodwill, appreciation, autonomy, flexibility, generosity, and fairness.
'6 Wheels' is a metaphor or image of the six areas in your co-parenting that need to be in perpetual motion, turning freely and automatically, in order to achieve a collaborative relationship.
I'm nervous interacting with my co-parent. Is 6 Wheels right for me?
Yes! 6 Wheels is about empowering you, so that you feel supported, prepared, skilled and strategic going into every interaction. It's helping you feel braver taking the lead, rather than stuck being reactive.
Plus it's about being curious and a bit playful - after all, doesn't secretly influencing your co-parent sound kind of fun?
If 6 Wheels is designed to transform conflict to collaboration, can I use the skills I learn for other tricky relationships?
Absolutely. Although this 10 week programme is specific to co-parenting, you will learn skills to apply to any high-conflict relationship, eg with family or colleagues. In essence, it's about developing your leadership abilities in a conflict situation.
How do you provide 1:1 support?
We meet for 10x 1hr weekly Zoom calls at a time that suits you. In this time we review the 6 Wheels actions you tried in the last week, and discuss ways to personalise the next week's actions to your situation.
Finally! A Way To (Secretly) Influence Your Co-Parent So You Can Enjoy Collaborative Co-Parenting
Influencing your co-parent through small, consistent, tactical behaviours is the easiest (and funnest!) way to transform your high-conflict relationship so that you can enjoy collaborative co-parenting.
What are you waiting for?
Book a free phone or Zoom call
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