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Transform your Co-parenting
Discover your influencing power and take the lead to improve your co-parenting relationship.
This is a fresh approach to co-parenting conflict that is strategic, tactical and backed by psychology research and philosophy.
It's about "leading" and "doing", rather than "waiting" and "hoping".
6 Wheels is a framework to nudge your co-parenting relationship into perpetual positive motion using a series of evidence-based tactical interventions.
ABOUT ME
Hi, I'm Rose Ewing.
I've been co-parenting with two young boys since 2015, and the early years were extremely high conflict and I felt stressed all the time. Just a notification of a text or email from my co-parent would bring on a wave of stress! It was like living life permanently on the battlefield with neither of us willing, or feeling safe enough, to lay down our weapons or defenses.
It took more than two years for me to pick myself up, dust myself off, and realise that co-parenting would not change unless I led the change.
Being curious and experimental by nature, I began wondering how I could change my co-parenting situation by using what I've learned from my studies and career in communication, psychology, philosophy and mediation.
6 Wheels Co-parenting is the culmination of years of experimentation, research, and learning from running co-parenting group workshops.
In the 6 Wheels Programme, I try to find a balance between sharing the research on influence and interpersonal relationships and what this means in a co-parenting context, with my own, sometimes raw and messy, experiences over the years.
Rose Ewing
Only when we're brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.
- Brene Brown
TRANSFORMATION BY STEALTH
Shhh…. Don’t tell your co-parent you’re here
Keep it a secret!
During the 6 Wheels Programme you will become an experimental social scientist in your own life. 6 Wheels is an active process - you will be just like a scientist curiously applying evidence-based interventions to trigger easy automatic positive behaviours in not only your co-parent, but you too.
The result? By consistently applying the 6 Wheels interventions, conflict will evaporate as you will be actively building trust and value into your co-parenting relationship.
And like all science experiments, when you apply the 6 Wheels interventions your subject (or co-parent) must be unaware of what you're doing and why you're doing it.
"I am not afraid of storms for I am learning how to sail my ship."
~ LOUISA MAY ALCOTT ~
6 WHEELS CO-PARENTING PROGRAMME
The 6 Wheels Game (and how to win)
Is 6 Wheels a game, a social experiment, or a course to improve my co-parenting?
It's all three!
6 Wheels Co-parenting is the ultimate social experiment where you 'win' by discovering your power to transform your co-parenting relationship!
Your co-parenting experience affects the happiness and well-being for both you and your children. When you succeed in getting both parents off the battlefield and create healthy co-parenting, it is a "win" for everyone.
It's all about bringing a sense of playful curiosity, an open-mindedness to experimentation, and a willingness to put ego aside and try something new.
6 Wheels Model
1
Understand that your behaviour will affect the behaviour of your co-parent.
2
Change your current co-parenting habits of behaviour that are not working.
3
Consistently apply new strategic behaviours and notice your co-parenting relationship begin to improve.
Principles of 6 Wheels
These 5 principles underpin 6 Wheels Co-parenting.
The principles are a philosophical way of looking at the world and our place in it, and are influenced by Stoic Philosophy and Positive Psychology.
1
Conflict is opportunity for change
Conflict can feel awkward or confronting.
But ultimately it's just another curious problem to solve in the process of gaining better understanding of another person.
2
Life is not what happens to you, it's your response to what happens to you
Events are simply there.
What's more important is how you can learn and grow from experiences.
3
Maximise what you have control over; and accept what you don't
A lot of the things we worry about are out of our control.
But you always have choice and control over your thoughts and how you respond.
4
Power is your capacity to influence
Changing someone's behaviour is not about building a persuasive argument.
Rather, effective influencing strategies are indirect behaviours that promote connection and trust.
5
Identity is fluid
There is no 'true self' set in stone at a fixed moment in time.
Instead, authenticity is a process of intentionally choosing who you become.
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom"
Viktor Frankl - Man's Search for Meaning
Step forward as the hero of your own story.
Take the lead! You don’t have to wait for your co-parent - with 6 Wheels you can transform your co-parenting relationship all by yourself.
I am offering 3 super-easy exercises to start you off on your journey to transform your co-parenting.
The exercises will be spread over three days (starting now), and take about 7-10 mins each to complete. After completing the 3 exercises I guarantee you'll have a new way of looking at yourself and your co-parenting situation.
Got questions?
I'm sure you have questions!
In fact I deliberately keep the 6 Wheels approach a little vague for a reason - these tactics do need to be concealed from your co-parent in order to work, and more importantly 6 Wheels is designed for people who are curious, people who can push beyond the muck and stress of their co-parenting situation and find the space to be curious.
Below are some general FAQs. Have a read, and if you're still curious, I'd love to connect by phone or Zoom for a free, no-obligation discovery call.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I'm not sure if 6 Wheels is right for me.
Book a free 30 min discovery call with me.
This is an easy way to simply have a chat, ask questions, and figure out if 6 Wheels is a good fit for you.
I feel emotionally exhausted and don't want to interact with my co-parent at all. Will 6 Wheels work for me?
I was once in that space too, and only communicated with my co-parent by text and email, and even that was incredibly stressful.
But if you feel you have the capacity to find the bravery and resilience within you to step forward, apply the tactics you will learn in 6 Wheels, and lead new ways of co-parenting behaviour, then this course will work for you.
My children are teenagers. Is 6 Wheels an appropriate course?
Absolutely - the age of your children is irrelevant. 6 Wheels is not about the nuts and bolts of parenting children together. It's about influencing the relationship you have with your co-parent. If you can improve the relationship, everything else improves.
I think it's a lost cause and don't think my co-parenting relationship can improve.
If you're looking through the 6 Wheels website then you absolutely do believe things can change!
If you believe you can change, then it's only fair to believe that your co-parent can change too. If you hold these two beliefs, then 6 Wheels is a great fit for you.
Can I do the 6 Wheels programme with my co-parent?
No - 6 Wheels is for one parent only. 6 Wheels Co-parenting is all about consistently applying tactics of influence to improve your co-parenting relationship. If your co-parent knows what you're doing and why, these tactics simply won't work.
I'm still in a relationship with my co-parent but we parent differently. Will this course help us?
6 Wheels is all about building and maintaining trust in your co-parenting relationship - completely through your own actions. But you will be applying tactics of negotiation and influence, which rely on your co-parent not knowing the strategy and psychology underpinning these tactics. 6 Wheels will only be effective under these conditions, so if that can work for you, then join up.
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