"In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer"
~ ALBERT CAMUS ~
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How Would It Feel To...
Have a supportive, respectful and collaborative co-parenting relationship?
Notice how calm and stress-free it is to communicate with your co-parent?
Avoid the uncertainty of Family Court where important decisions are out of your control
Save money by both avoiding Court and also sharing resources more effectively with your co-parent?
Have a clear set of easy evidence-based actions that are proven to build healthy relationships?
Transform your co-parenting relationship - and feel proud for owning this achievement?
Role-model to your children that it's possible to build trust and value into difficult relationships?
All Of This Is 100% Possible For You!
MY CLIENTS ARE LIVING PROOF, AND YOU CAN BE TOO!
The Benefits Of Doing The Program NOW
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SAVE MONEY$$
Lawyers are expensive - I've been there. Every letter from your lawyer triggers a reply and then you're paying for another letter - it's never-ending.
Aside from the legal costs of conflict, there's also the financial cost of the lack of co-parenting collaboration. Imagine what you would save if you could share resources with your co-parent, or do each other favours?
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AVOID COURT STRESS
Family Court is stressful - I've been there too! It's also time-consuming with all the preparation, and the uncertainty experienced while you wait for a court date. And of course going to Court means you're putting big areas of your life into the control of someone else.
How much better to be able to take the lead and positively transform your co-parenting relationship?
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YOUR WELL-BEING
Chronic co-parenting conflict can really take it's toll on your psychological well-being. Feeling anxious, powerless, and devalued can also have spillover effects to your parenting and worklife. You deserve better! "What's good for the hive is good for the bees", and similarly, what's good for your co-parenting relationship is good for you, your children, and your co-parent.
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"Turn your wounds into wisdom"
Oprah Winfrey
Join me in a personalised 10 week co-parenting programme and take the lead to transform your co-parenting situation.
Tame & Train is a fun, experimental and fresh approach to strategically turn your adversity into a source of advantage.
My clients are curious and capable parents who refuse to stay stuck in high-conflict co-parenting and are seeking a solution that empowers them to drive behaviour change.
They are highly motivated to achieve collaborative co-parenting, not only for their own well-being, but because they know it's best for their children.
IN TAME & TRAIN YOU'LL GET
Self-paced online learning so it fits in with your lifestyle
Step-by-step small, simple, strategic actions to apply to your co-parenting
Weekly 1:1 live coaching tailored to your unique situation
Downloadable workbook to track and celebrate progress
Lifetime access and a full-refund guarantee
TAME & TRAIN IS AN 8 WEEK PROGRAMME WITH A STEP-BY STEP PERSONALISED ACTION PLAN, WEEKLY PERSONAL SUPPORT, AND TRAINING VIDEOS.
When you join Tame & Train, you'll receive 1:1 coaching support for your unique co-parenting situation.
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Based on the neuroscience of behaviour change and habit formation, Tame & Train includes a protocol of subtle, tactical, evidence-based actions personalised to transform your co-parenting relationship.
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As the weeks unfold and you start noticing positive change, you'll build confidence in your ability as a transformational leader who can influence behaviour change (in potentially the trickiest person in your life!).
Most importantly, you'll have fun! Behavioural science research shows that when we are more playful, we are more open, curious, and creative. In challenging situations, this is the leadership mindset you need!
Tame & Train is an 8 week journey of self-discovery as you choose to be the hero of your own story, brave and curious, and ready to steer your co-parenting relationship in a positive direction.
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You're Also Protected With a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
If at the end of Tame & Train, if you feel that your co-parenting has not significantly improved, just get in touch and your payment will be refunded.
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All that's asked of you is that you can show that you committed to the process by attending the calls and putting into action all of the evidence-based interventions.
How Much $$$ Has Collaborative Co-Parenting Saved Me?
My two years of high-conflict co-parenting cost me about $5,000 in legal fees - and that's low!
Save $$ On Court Costs
Legal bills quickly add up! If you're communicating frequently through lawyers it's not uncommon to spend $5,000-$10,000 a year - more if there is a hearing.
Lawyers in NZ typically cost $300-$500 an hour.
Save $$ By Sharing Resources
Imagine the money you can save with collaborative co-parenting when there is a higher level of trust and support. In this climate of co-parenting it's so easy to share children's belongings between the homes, and borrow things from each other.
THINK OF IT THIS WAY:
BY INVESTING IN TAME & TRAIN YOU WILL SPEND ABOUT THE SAME AS PAYING A LAWYER FOR 60 MINS.
Kia Ora, I'm Rose Ewing
I Was Once Stuck In High-Conflict Co-Parenting Too...
I've been co-parenting with two young boys since 2015, and the early years were extremely high conflict and I felt stressed all the time. Just the 'ping' of a text or email from my co-parent would bring on a wave of stress! It was like living life permanently on the battlefield with neither of us willing, or feeling safe enough, to lay down our weapons or defenses.
It took more than two years for me to pick myself up, dust myself off, and realise that my co-parenting relationship would not change unless I led the change.
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Using curiosity, patience and consistency I applied proven psychological tactics of leadership and influence to my high-conflict co-parenting and now it is completely transformed. Hand on heart I now enjoy easy, flexible, supportive, collaborative co-parenting.
AND NOW IT'S YOUR TURN!
It's important to me that you, me and TAME & TRAIN are a good match for each other.
You're ready for TAME & Train if...
You're ready to take CONSISTENT ACTION to move your co-parenting forward.
You want SUPPORT and a clear ACTION PLAN or gameplay to transform co-parenting conflict to collaboration.
You want to learn and apply skills of LEADERSHIP AND INFLUENCE in your real-world context of co-parenting.
You're ready to do NEW THINGS and be curious and experimental to shake up your high-conflict co-parenting
You believe it is possible to improve your co-parenting situation and you want to LEAD THE CHANGE.
You're NOT ready for TAME & Train if...
You feel PHYSICALLY UNSAFE interacting with your co-parent
You're looking for a QUICK FIX solution to your co-parenting challenges - Tame & Train gives you clear action steps but it does take patience and consistency.
You're not willing to CHANGE any of your own behaviours or beliefs.
You've already decided what will and WON'T WORK and aren't open to new ideas.
You believe empowerment is 'LAWYERING UP', rather than taking the lead to drive change.
You're not interested in learning and personal GROWTH through real-life experience.
6 Wheels Co-Parenting Gives You Everything You Need To Transform Your Co-Parenting
EVEN IF YOUR CO-PARENT IS COMPLETELY UNCOOPERATIVE...
6 Wheels Co-parenting gives you the specific actions and strategies to empower you to secretly influence your co-parent into pro-social behaviour - even the 'wildest' co-parent will succumb! I have the toolkit and action plan - you just need to bring patience, curiosity, and tenacity.
EVEN IF YOU'VE BEEN IN CONFLICT FOR YEARS...
Then don't waste any more time! You will be co-parents long after your children grow up. Wouldn't it be great to know you can both go to your children's weddings without any stress? 6 Wheels Co-parenting is based on neuroplasticity protocols that prove change at brain level is possible at any age.
EVEN IF YOU ONLY COMMUNICATE BY TEXT OR EMAIL...
A starting point is all you need. It's all about making a start, taking actions to get the wheels of collaborative co-parenting turning. 6 Wheels Co-parenting acknowledges the uniqueness of each co-parenting situation and the 12 week action plan will be personalised just for you.
EVEN IF YOU'RE EMOTIONALLY EXHAUSTED...
The simple fact that you're reading this tells me that despite it all, you have the capacity to find the bravery and resilience within you to step forward and lead the change that has to happen in your co-parenting relationship. And I'll be giving you a 12 week action plan and supporting you all the way!
NO MATTER WHERE YOU'RE AT NOW, BY THE END OF TAME & TRAIN YOU WILL FEEL EMPOWERED, AND FEEL A NEW TRUST AND VALUE IN YOUR CO-PARENTING
There Is A Better Way; A More Strategic Way
WITH TAME & TRAIN, IN JUST 10 WEEKS, YOU CAN:
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BECOME EMPOWERED
A leader sets the goal and inspires others to follow.
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6 Wheels coaches you to be the leader to transform your co-parenting from high-conflict to collaborative.
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Over 10 weeks you will use your power of influence to subtly engage and guide your co-parent towards your goal of collaborative co-parenting.
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BUILD TRUST
Trust is essential in any collaborative relationship.
By applying small, easy actions that encourage your co-parent to experience choice, connection, and competence, you will build trust into your co-parenting relationship.
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Importantly, your co-parent will start to effortlessly copy your pro-social actions.
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CREATE VALUE
Finding and growing value in your co-parenting relationship is essential.
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6 Wheels is a step-by-step toolkit for creating a valued relationship characterized by goodwill, appreciation, generosity, respect, fairness, and flexibility.
It's a "win" for you and your children!
AND I'M GOING TO SHOW YOU HOW!
When you both feel empowerment, trust, and value, you have collaborative co-parenting.
GOT QUESTIONS? START HERE
Frequently Asked Questions
I'm sure you have questions! In fact, 6 Wheels Co-Parenting is designed for people who are curious, so I'd be disappointed if you didn't! Below are some general FAQs. Have a read, and if you're still curious, I'd love to connect by phone or Zoom for a free, no-obligation discovery call.
Can I do the 6 Wheels programme with my co-parent?
No - 6 Wheels is definitely for one parent only.
6 Wheels Co-parenting is all about experimentally applying tactics of influence to improve your co-parenting relationship. If your co-parent knows what you're doing and why, these tactics simply won't work.
I'm still not sure if 6 Wheels is right for me...
Book a free 30 min discovery call with me. This is an easy way to simply have a chat, ask questions, and figure out if 6 Wheels is a good fit for you.
Why is 6 Wheels Co-Parenting run over 10 weeks?
Change happens over time when new behaviours are used consistently and repetitively. 10 weeks gives us the time to create a shift towards automatic, habitual, collaborative behaviour.
My children are teenagers. Is 6 Wheels an appropriate course?
Absolutely - the age of your children is irrelevant. 6 Wheels is not about the nuts and bolts of parenting children together. It's about influencing the relationship you have with your co-parent. If you can improve the relationship, everything else improves.
I've read so many self-help books about co-parenting but can't seem to change anything. How is 6 Wheels different?
6 Wheels is all about the "doing"! 10 weeks of choosing to take the lead as a 'social scientist' and applying proven strategies of influence, then being supported to evaluate and improve your co-parenting leadership.
Why is it called '6 Wheels'?
Great question! Influence depends on trust, and trust is earned through actions. Research shows 6 key categories of actions that build trust - Goodwill, appreciation, autonomy, flexibility, generosity, and fairness.
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'6 Wheels' is a metaphor or image of the six areas in your co-parenting that need to be in perpetual motion, turning freely and automatically, in order to achieve a collaborative relationship.
I'm nervous interacting with my co-parent. Is 6 Wheels right for me?
Yes! 6 Wheels is about empowering you, so that you feel supported, prepared, skilled and strategic going into every interaction. It's helping you feel braver taking the lead, rather than stuck being reactive.
Plus it's about being curious and a bit playful - after all, doesn't secretly influencing your co-parent sound kind of fun?
If 6 Wheels is designed to transform conflict to collaboration, can I use the skills I learn for other tricky relationships?
Absolutely. Although this 10 week programme is specific to co-parenting, you will learn skills to apply to any high-conflict relationship, eg with family or colleagues. In essence, it's about developing your leadership abilities in a conflict situation.
How do you provide 1:1 support?
We meet for 10x 1hr weekly Zoom calls at a time that suits you. In this time we review the 6 Wheels actions you tried in the last week, and discuss ways to personalise the next week's actions to your situation.
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If nothing changes, nothing changes...
How Much Is It Going To COST You To Do Nothing And STAY IN CONFLICT?
LET'S DO THIS!
Ready To Take The Lead?
TAME & TRAIN is all about becoming a leader.
Being a leader is being the one to set the goal and inspiring your co-parent to want to follow your lead.
Tame & Train is a journey of self-discovery to find your power of influence and build trust and value into your co-parenting relationship.
If you have questions about whether Tame & Train is a good fit for you, let's chat.
